1. Have a positive attitude. It really can make a difference. Ask yourself, “How upset do I want to get over this, and for how long?” One strategy is to simply not let your thoughts dwell on things that pull you down. Focus, instead, on the joyous aspects of the season.
2. Set a holiday budget and stick with it. Nothing can raise holiday anxiety more quickly than the overspending that accompanies equating love with the cost of the gifts.
3. Take care of yourself. Get adequate sleep. Eat regular (and healthy) meals, and try to stick with your exercise routine. Plan pleasurable activities each day, and spend time with supportive people who care about you.
4. Let go of expectations for perfection. When you put your energies into trying to achieve the same perfection in meals, decorations, and gift wrapping that you see pictured in the magazines, it is easy to become so stressed that you lose the loving spirit of the season and the warm feelings that go with it.
5. Set aside differences. Even though family members might not live up to your expectations, try to accept them as they are. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion.
6. Take responsibility for your words and your actions. Remember that the holiday season is really about love. Keep your communications positive, constructive, and kind. “I love you” and (when appropriate) “I’m sorry” are two of the most important phrases you can utter.
7. Reach out to others in need. If you are alone on a holiday, consider visiting someone in a hospital or nursing home who is also alone. The joy to be gained from such an experience often far overrides the blues you might be feeling before your visit.
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